New Goals Don’t Deliver New Results, New Lifestyles Do

Here’s How To Create Long Lasting Change

Andy Murphy


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Let’s Talk About the List

We’ve all done them; multiple times. Hundreds even. Possibly even thousands of times.

They’re great. They are the first steps in making the invisible, visible.

And I’m sure you’ve believed (as much I have) that what you’ve written down, dreamed of or even committed to, would last, but they never really do.

Most of us have also written list after list of the things we want to do or of future plans, the ones that might otherwise read ‘how do I get from here to there.’

You know the lists I’m talking about.

These things are done with excitement, creativity and enthusiasm, which is what all dreams should contain, but they are all too often not actualised.

That’s because of what James Clear so wonderfully said — ‘New goals don’t deliver new results. New Lifestyles do.’

So, let’s talk about how to create long lasting change.

And the good news is that a new lifestyle can be changed in as little as 21 days.

The 21 Day Rule

It’s said that 21 days is the threshold for breaking old habitual patterns or solidifying new ones, so that’s the good news. The bad news is that quite often along that road it can feel struggle some, effortful and even hopeless at times.

That’s just the mind creating thoughts to get it back to an old self it was comfortable with.

Growing pains are painful!

The neurons in the brain that need to fire and wire together in order to make a new pattern last (which typically takes 21 days), can be similar to those in how a sweater is sewn together.

If the sweater was only sewed using very few stitches, it won’t last. If the sweater is sewed with a seam and a few more stitches, it may last longer but it will still fall apart.

Sew it properly however, with seams and all, and the sweater can last through even the thickest of winters.